Friend of Cross Road,
“Is honesty overrated?” This question was posed
recently to President Obama by a sympathetic reporter who wondered about the
discrepancies between statements by various presidential candidates and the
facts. To his credit, the president defended the importance of honesty in
gaining the trust of the American people.
Truth-telling however seems to be a custom more
honored in the breach than in the observance by politicians. This is less their fault then our own. We prefer to hear pleasant promises rather
than hard facts and choose our leaders accordingly. Raised in such a fairy tale atmosphere,
our children inherit our illusions and have come to expect life to have a happy
ending less by effort than by default.
When a young woman first comes to our center for a
pregnancy test, she senses that her own dream world is in jeopardy. If the test
is negative, she is often eager to return to her carefree lifestyle as if this
brush with reality had not occurred. In such situations, our goal is to help
her take a more sober view about the dangers involved in sexual relations
outside of marriage. If the test is positive, the experience is much more
challenging as the young woman is shaken by the prospect of taking on real
adult responsibilities. Surprisingly, many young women would be willing to
accept these challenges if they had the support of their parents.
As one would expect, this news is usually not
welcome by the parents who are rightly concerned about their daughter’s future.
Unfortunately, often one of them, usually mom, recommends abortion as if this
procedure would return their child to the land of innocence. Instead, parents
who pressure their daughter to terminate a pregnancy condemn her to a Neverland
where she will never grow up without going through tremendous psychological
pain and intense resentment.
This is where parents need to honestly face the
truth about the life of their unborn grandchild and help their little girl grow
up. In such cases, making an adoption plan, which takes great courage, may
prove to be the best way for their daughter to become a mature, responsible
In our society, honesty is not overrated though it
is undermined by euphemistic expressions that gloss over ugly truths. The real
victims here are our children and grandchildren: the future generations we are
willing to burden and abort to maintain our own comfortable illusions about
life. At Cross Road, we encourage families to honestly assess their plans in
light of the horrific truth about abortion and the inestimable value of human
life. If they can make their way through the maze of distortions then no one
will be more proud when the child is born than grandma and grandpa. That’s the
Thank you for your continued support of our work.