to the American Heritage Dictionary, “to kill with kindness” is to “overwhelm
or harm someone with mistaken or excessive benevolence.” And while, in general,
a civil society is marked by its magnanimity there is a danger in being too
nice, just as there is a danger in giving a child too much candy or giving a
young woman a limitless supply of hormonal contraceptives. Extreme kindness
weakens the will of the receiver and leads to an even greater dependence on the
nation’s fifty year “War on Poverty” assumed that prosperity would follow
simply from the elimination of physical need. As well intentioned as it may
have been, it has brought instead much devastation to the families it was
designed to help. Likewise, the current “War on Women,” being reprised for this
election cycle, promises women pleasure without pain by providing them with free
oral contraceptives to prevent pregnancies. Putting aside their cynical regard
of women as helpless or of pregnancy as a disease, these proponents would give
out Plan B pills like gum drops to high school girls knowing that this would result
not only in increased rates of STDs such as herpes or the HPV infection, but also
in an increased risk of developing breast cancer.
as studies that showed a high rate of HPV infection among women were muted a
decade ago, before a vaccine was developed, so too studies showing the
undeniable link between the use of oral contraceptives and breast cancer are now
ignored or dismissed by researchers
sensitive to the political agenda of those who provide their grants. Yet having
reviewed many of these studies, Dr. Lisa Honkanen, who apparently didn’t get
their memo, points out the indisputable fact that the more estrogen a woman is
exposed to in her lifetime, the higher is her risk of developing breast cancer.
Dr. Lisa further observes that delaying a first pregnancy through contraceptive
use extends the time frame when a woman’s breast tissue is susceptible to
damage from all carcinogens, including estradiol, the artificial estrogen used
in “low dose” birth control pills. The promise to provide free contraceptives
to all women, codified in the Affordable Care Act, while seeming to some to be
a kind, benevolent deed, is a potential killer.
we have a high school student who comes into our center for a pregnancy test,
accompanied by her friends. They are all grins and giggles in the waiting room while
she suddenly becomes serious as she goes in for the test. When she gets a
negative result, her smile returns and she is ready to rush back out to her buddies.
But this is our own small window of opportunity to remind her of the real
danger of contracting an STD and inform her of the health risk involved with using
Plan B and other oral contraceptives. To some sensitive educators, it may seem
cruel to disturb a teen’s romantic feelings with such tangible facts. But this
is really another way of being kind, a way that doesn’t kill but empowers. Our goal is to help the young woman to see
clearly the consequences that follow from her choices. It is a way of helping
her accept her adult responsibilities. When she returns to her friends it is
usually with a more sober expression and hopefully helps them all to assume a
more serious approach to life.
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